On candidacy, call and ministry: I’ve got some work to do
this morning, I had my meeting with the district committee on ordained ministry. in the united methodist church, there are a number of steps/procedures, etc. you need to go through as you discern your call to ordained ministry as a deacon or elder in the church. meeting with the district committee, or dcom is the next step after your church body has approved you.
not sure what i really expected this morning’s meeting to be. i was already feeling not-so-great about the process when i hit enough bumps along the way: my psych eval arriving several months late, people forgetting to include me on the schedule for the dcom meeting and only having a week to write the answers to the required questions and other bits here and there.
but in committing to the process, i moved forward. based on the materials i submit, my psych eval, other required documents and their conversation with me, what the dcom is asked to do is recommend me [or not] to be a certified candidate. i must not have provided enough information that the district committee needs for “determining gifts, evidence of Godʼs grace, fruit, and demonstration of the call to licensed or ordained ministry…”
they moved to postpone their vote on my certification until may. 3 months.
what does that mean? that means as of right now–today–i am not a certified candidate for ministry. can i ‘fix’ those things that need fixing to a point where the dcom will notice and cast a vote? maybe. is that the point? to get my life to appear to be in order? as my mentor said: huh ??? I thought over commitment IS what makes a hard-chargin’ entreprenuer-type pastor?? perhaps the church is trying to breed a new kind of pastor.
how do i feel? pretty shitty. yes. that’s how you feel when someone tells you, sorry, we don’t think you’re fit for this. and as someone who has had more people than not tell her that they need her, well this kinda hurts. it sucks big time.
but the funny thing is–i sort of expected that to be their answer. while i was waiting in the other room for them to deliberate, i was already preparing myself for how i would react to dcom telling me, i’m sorry, we are unable to certify you at this time.
i had this conversation with the dr. who went over my psych eval last month with me. i told him that i hadn’t really experienced failure or someone tell me that i didn’t have what it takes. careful what i ask for, i guess, because here i am in the very beginning stages of this call to ministry and i’ve been told that i’m not ready. let me rephrase that [thanks to my sis, @JustShalom for pointing it out that it looks like i'm equating being told by the docm that i'm not ready, with failure]: i wouldn’t call this a failure by any means. in fact, it’s probably what i need to hear and experience. it is, however, one of those defining moments. like when kids are picking you for their team at recess. except you don’t get called.
so what’s next? i mentioned that i was looking for a spiritual director. i’ve mentioned i’ve been working on the sabbath-keeping bit. i’m to report back in may [assuming that's enough time to get all those things 'done'] for them to cast a vote then. i get the whole ‘it’s in your best interest’ monologue. not sure if that was the write one to pull out [they didn't actually say that] at this point in the process. i was looking to be affirmed in this call by being certified as a candidate for ministry.
i wasn’t looking for praise. i was looking to be affirmed that yes, we need people like you in the church, but you have to be serious about slowing down.
i didn’t hear acknowledgement of gifts or graces or, you have a unique set of skills that the church could use. i heard: how are you going to juggle everything?
i accept the decision of the district committee on ordained ministry and trust that the Holy Spirit was working through them. i believe they did their job in not recommending someone who still needs work. but don’t we all?
so for those reading this and who feel comfortable–check in with me from time to time and ask how it is with my soul.
and for those who sent good vibes today–they were received. i will acknowledge the work of the Holy Spirit in all of this–even in times of [seeming] suckiness.
moral of the story as of 6pm today: turn in your paperwork on time. and your DS really does care about you.
Sophia-
Sorry about the crappy DCOM meeting. I have had them as well. This whole thing can be a frustrating process. I am gearing up for the BOM and I have to say I am quite terrified. I will be praying for you.
Thank you, friend
Hey Sophia,
Hang in there! things will work out i’m sure. I wish they would have given you constructive things to work on as apposed to just that they can’t approve you at this time.
I do have to say…now I am more scared for mine. I don’t take criticism well sometimes.
One woman gave me the contact info for a colleague who is ‘like’ me–i assume busy and balancing work/school/family. it wasn’t that i didn’t know what i needed to do–i told them what i was already doing to address that.
you’ll be great, ryan!
“i am not a certified candidate for ministry [AS DEEMED BY A COMMITTEE WITHIN THE INSTITUTIONAL CONSTRUCT OF THE UNITED METHODIST CHURCH].”
I remember this guy named Peter, though, who grew up in a society where the only way you could be a priest and be a ‘certified candidate for ministry’ (a.k.a. priest) was by being born into the right tribe or going through years upon years of specialized training. In the midst of all this, he had the gall to suggest God was busting open the gates with this whole ‘priesthood of all believers’ thing. A different guy (I think his name was Jesus) said something else about how new wine couldn’t be kept in old wineskins: the fermentation and action of this new substance would burst open the old container/construct. New skins, new structures were going to be needed, and the old skins just couldn’t adjust/expand for such a fermentation of the Spirit.
The decision by a committee within an institution that still maintains itself upon core principles devised within a different societal norm is, in my opinion, of little import. There is need for new structures and new norms. I say dream for those. Envision those. Work toward those with some rugged band of visionaries and pragmatists, artists and builders, gardeners and theologians.
My $o.o2 anyway.
as always, ron, food to my soul.
Peace to you. A scripture comes to mind as I read your post:
Meanwhile, the moment we get tired in the waiting, God’s Spirit is right alongside helping us along. If we don’t know how or what to pray, it doesn’t matter. He does our praying in and for us, making prayer out of our wordless sighs, our aching groans. He knows us far better than we know ourselves, knows our pregnant condition, and keeps us present before God. That’s why we can be so sure that every detail in our lives of love for God is worked into something good.(Romans 8:26-28 MSG)
Thanks, Leena!
I don’t ‘blame’ anyone on this decision. I believe the Holy Spirit is working through the committee, through these decisions so that I might learn and grow more.
I haven’t applied for candidacy but between my current ministry position and my last I sent in my resume and interviewed at umpteen places. At many of them I was the ‘runner up’getting “we wished we could’ve hired both of you, but…”. So hard to hear. I started out angry and eventually came to realize that when it was time God would place me where I was needed, and provide for me and my family in the meanwhile. I know so many others in the Lutheran church who applied for A.I.M. who were torn apart by the interview process.. I pray you keep up the spirit of “God is working in you to prepare you for the next step”.
Sophia gifts, just in case you need a reminder: you are an artist in all senses of the word. Visual. Musical. Creative thinking and problem solving. Sometimes it takes institutions a bit to “get” that. But you are definitely what we need.
thank you, Shannonnnnnnnnnn.
As a certified candidate (well, that was until after they lost my background check) I understand your frustration. I had experienced so much strife with this process, I don’t want to continue. I can’t stand with an organization that screams for new pastors and then makes it impossible to be one. There are many ministry opportunities outside of UMC. Just remember, you can be Wesleyan with out being UM.
I just came across this blog through twitter. I don’t know you but chin up and push through. God calls us to be ministers. Not necessarily with any one organization in particular.
I will be praying for you and all candidates that are struggling.
I know I replied on twitter, but thanks again for your words, Chris
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